For some students, one of the biggest challenges when you decide to study abroad isn’t getting accepted to the program of your dreams. Nope, it’s convincing your parents that your brilliant idea is in fact a good life decision.  If your mom or dad doesn’t have a lot of experience with this type of thing, the thought of seeing their little pumpkin head away from the homeland is a scary prospect. You need to be prepared for this and be ready to get them on board about how great of an idea this actually is. It’s your life, right? Prove to them that you’ve got it under control.

How to convince your parents to let you study abroad- tips for how to get your parents to let you go study abroad. If you want to go abroad but your parents are nervous about it, here's how you can ease their mind and get them to say yes to letting you study abroad.

Be responsible in all aspects of your life

Ok, let’s be honest, if you’re trying to show your parents what a mature, young individual you are (who would no doubt thrive in an international setting), you’re going to need to demonstrate your basic competence on domestic soil. For example, getting good grades, helping your parents out, with chores, navigating from Point A to Point B successfully, and staying out of trouble with your RA are all a good place to start. If you can’t prove that you’re a capable human in your natural habitat, then odds are they won’t ever be thoroughly convinced that you can stay out of trouble during your time abroad.

Show your parents things like academic success, good budgeting, a nice, clean dorm room, and all of those other annoying aspects about their kids that adults like to brag about to their friends are visible. If you want them to treat you like a grown-up when you come to them all excited about studying abroad, then act like one.

Know your reasons why you want to go

Believe it or not, telling your parents you want to study abroad for reasons like “European accents are hot”, you “can’t wait to party every night in a Latin American discoteca”, or “because you want to pretend to be all ‘save-the-world-y’ like Angelina Jolie and ride elephants in Africa” are not in the top five reasons that parents like to see their kids go abroad.

It’s important to make sure your parents know why your experience abroad will be beneficial for you and won’t just be a semester of partying. If we are to assume that your reasons run deeper, then you should really lay them all out for your parents. Why do you want to go on exchange? Is it to learn a new language (always a marketable quality), or to add a valuable experience to your resume? Tell them! If it’s about expanding your horizons; experiencing life, culture, and academia in a foreign country; and becoming a global citizen; tell them that too!

Having a sit-down, honest, and open conversation with the powers-that-be in your family will show them how serious you are. Explain to them why this country, or this language speaks to you (pun intended). And explain to them that, while this is obviously a great chance for you to really find yourself in this big, wide world, it’s also something that will help you land your first job. Don’t forget to tell them about all of the important skills you’ll acquire like independence, communication skills, and flexibility. Parents love that stuff!

Get a Job

If you’re the one paying for this opportunity, it’s never too early to start figuring out all of those logistics. Even if you’re one of the very fortunate ones who have parents who are willing and able to help foot the cost of your time abroad, you should really consider pitching in. Getting a job is an excellent way to show you’re up for the commitment of a study abroad expedition.

Of course, just working is not enough, start saving it too. You can even consider selling some of your stuffto help pay for your semester abroad. Parents go gaga over their kids getting job and will start beaming at your newfound responsibility. They’ll also know that you’re willing to help contribute to the cost.

Present your parents with a financial plan

Speaking of those costs, you probably should have started considering them by now. If your parents are already skeptical about this whole thing, you are going to want to have a well thought-out plan of action before you approach them. Let’s talk budgets.

First, how much will this all cost? Our post How to Calculate the (Real) Cost of Your Study Abroad Semesterhas a nifty excel spreadsheet to help ya figure that out. And be honest.  Factor in things like the flight, tuition, room and board. If you’re planning on doing some extra traveling, be sure to consider that now as well. Then figure out how you’re going to be paying for that lump sum. That job you just promised to get is a good start, but it’s also a great idea to apply for every scholarship you can find; never turn down money like that. If needed, students loans can be applied to study abroad as well. Here’s our post on how to find scholarships for study abroad.

If you are fortunate enough to have parents who are willing and able to pitch in, be sure to include the part about how much you love them and how you’ll pay them back or make sure they know how eternally grateful you are.

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Know Your Stuff

Make sure you know everything about the program that you plan on applying for, like:

•  What types of classes will you be taking, and what language are the classes in?
•  What type of university will you be attending, and in what type of housing will you be living?
•  What is it about this country you’re heading to that you like, and how well do you need to know their language to succeed?

Parents like to freak out about the dangers in a foreign territory (especially if they’ve seen Taken) and must be reassured about your safety, so do your research and point them to the US State Department site so they can see what’s up. Explain to them the safety measures that you’ll take and prove that you’re smart enough to protect your belongings and avoid dangerous situations. Remind them that it’s easier to keep in touch than ever– here are some good options for keeping in touch on the cheap while you’re abroad.

If you don’t know something, show that you know who to speak to about it. This could be your program director, study abroad advisor, your current school’s or your new school’s website, and a plethora of online resources about your chosen country and just studying abroad in general. But it’s not just for your parents to know; you’ll really want to know all of these things for your own benefit.

Some more points to work into your argument:

•  Depending on the program and country you choose, studying in that country may be an equivalent, or ever lower, price as studying at your home institution.
•  Emphasize that you’ll be studying abroad. That means that you’ll be receiving college credit that will be going towards your graduation requirements. If this isn’t going to be delaying your graduation date, throw that in too.
•  Remind them again how great this is going to make you look in future job applications.
•  Hey– your parents can come visit! Here’s a list of things you can do together when they do.
•  Promise to Skype all of the time and that you’ll keep in touch.

Set up a meeting with someone who’s been abroad

Desperate times call for desperate measures. If you have a family friend who already studied abroad, set up a meeting so your parents can ask them questions about their experience. It will help them feel better about things like safety, drinking, being a foreigner in a strange country, etc. Lay those success stories on thick and hopefully they’ll come around.  Often colleges help set up meetings between you and other students from your school who have already completed the program for which you’re applying. Take advantage of these interactions to get all of your questions asked and answered.

What did you do to convince your parents to let you study abroad? Why are your parents worried about letting you go abroad? Give us some feedback in the comments


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